I sit for guidance for every person I see in the healing room that day and today’s messages are all about the way we need to allow ourselves to receive help.
We need to learn how to let ourselves be supported and to know that it’s okay to admit we need help instead of always having to be the strong one holding it all together.
There’s no shame in needing help.
There’s no shame in wanting to be supported.
In having our needs met, and being helped.
We don’t always need to be the strong one.
In this episode of Tea with Robin, we’re talking about receiving and how that is directly related to our ability to shine.
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Listen to episode 43: Receiving Help, Three Things, #relationshipgoals
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🎧 Episode 43: On receiving help. Being the strong one who needs nothing may be hurting us more than we realize…when “No thanks, I’m good” is our main response, resistance becomes our predominant vibe. Probably not what we mean to do! I share about receiving help and how it relates to the quality of our shine. ⚡⚡
I talk about my shame bubble theory and why trying to stuff it back down is pointless. And why we feel shame about it all in the first place. We’re better served learning to be vulnerable with the right kinds of people.
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My notes from this show:
It feels like a lot of us are walking in a similar place right now and I bet a lot of us can use this message today.
We ride together, we’re a collection of hearts that choose to be together and usually, that means we have similar things coming up.
I sit for guidance for every person I see in the healing room that day and today what keeps coming up is that we are really needing to allow ourselves to receive help.
To let ourselves be supported.
To allow ourselves to admit we need it and we don’t always have to be the strong one holding it all together.
There’s no shame in needing help.
There’s no shame in wanting to be supported.
In having our needs met, and being helped.
And equally, it’s okay if you feel resistant to this as well because I understand it too well how we resist admitting we need it because we don’t like to feel weak.
I’m thinking about a friend of mine who when I first met him was kind of a nervous wreck and I would ask him, How are you sleeping? and he’d say, I’ll sleep when I am dead, which made me feel so sad but it’s also the story many of us tell and yet it is definitely not a healthy story we can live with.
This is where I begin to notice our struggle with honoring needs and allowing our needs to be a thing…. Is our ignoring our bodily need, and that’s a sign of things to come and that’s a sign if we’re already blowing off our body’s needs… ruh-roh.
You matter
Your gorgeous body matters
Your body houses your soul.
It matters
You matter.
The body has needs:
Eat well,
Rest well,
Nap well
Touch in with the sweet spot of rest every day…
So refreshing and helpful.
We really want to take care of ourselves.
Affirm a positive message to our bodies.
When we don’t do that. We affirm that we don’t matter. And that is the nuttiest thing of all! We have to tend our needs.
It so important and even though I know it’s not everybody everywhere at all times… but by and large, I notice this is a struggle.
Were you taught that you matter and your needs matter?
You and I need help. We need emotional support.
Everybody needs support at some point or another. That’s just how it is.
Do you know that it’s okay to receive help?
And are you comfortable receiving help?
What I notice is, a lotta people go around acting like they shouldn’t need it, it’s not good to need it, it’s embarrassing to need it, should be able to do it on our own…
We’ve gotten comfortable being the strong one for everyone else, and maybe that’s a role we’ve taken up to avoid being vulnerable…
So let’s talk a little about why it is that it’s hard to take help.
Thinking about me, for example, just because I’ve seen a lot of healers and teachers it doesn’t mean everything is great… and those have made the best teachers of what not to do by the way… some of it is downright cringe-worthy when I remember back…
Maybe you’ve been teased and treated sarcastically in your tribe for being vulnerable…
So if you have discomfort with receiving help, it’s good to see it and know what it is. AND the fact still remains that you need help. You need help.
It’s not okay for you to skip over yourself. You matter. You are loved and cherished and wanted in this world and you’re needed!
And if parts of you are needing tending and holding, I want you to make space for that and not just once things are horrible… but have a person who’s all for you.
A powerful mentor, a powerful ally is so important for your health and growth… and no it doesn’t always need to be a paid professional. Some of my dearest friends are that to me.
I know we carry stories forward about what happened in the past and we expect more of the same when we were vulnerable and asked for helped or we revealed something and were teased and felt shut down…
Think about how it was for you. Do you have a predominant feeling of not having a great experience being open for help?
Shame is a very deep memory in the body and in my experience as we move to receive help again, that shame bubble rises and for a lot of us, there is an unconscious response to that, to want to quash it again.
Even those of us practicing and intending to be present with our feelings… this will still be the first response because that was the root wounding.
I’m talking about those of us who didn’t have a great experience so we aren’t the ones feeling like, oh YAY I have upset and I can’t wait to talk to people about it! We will feel ourselves wanting to push it back down again.
What if we could let it move, what if we could remember receiving help is super connected directly to how well you do in the world.
If you’re functioning in a funky way emotionally speaking, if there are upsets you’re not getting help with, this impacts how well you do. Because carrying stuff with you that is not getting relief takes up valuable real estate on your insides and there is not enough room on your insides that are for the other things that want to thrive and be alive in you
So your healing is directly related to your shining. Your ability to shine and thrive and do well.
If it’s difficult for you to receive help if it’s difficult for you to admit to needing help if it’s difficult for you to own that you have some struggles and want people to help you, it’s also really hard to thrive, shine, and be our idealized self.
You have a vision of who you’d like to be don’t you? Of how you wanna look, how you wanna be, how you wanna roll, correct?
If you are the one wanting to be out there kicking butt and taking names in a way you feel proud of you can’t go around being the one all crunched down defended… and that’s the strongest vibe you’re offering…. Even when you’re trying to be empowered and powerful… take a second and think of somebody you know.
I would probably say 100% of the time this isn’t what we intended for ourselves.
And if you ask me this is a dilemma for so many of us in the world who desire to be of service or are of service and are maybe even in a public eye… if we are uncomfortable receiving the help we’re also awkward in our shine. And helping is shining.
We are here to wake up. To remember us as light beings. To remember where we come from if you don’t call it God, you look out on nature and realize you’re part of that power, and more and more as we align with that energy the better it is.
At some point or another, we need to receive some support in order to go where we want to go. Just to be able to handle the brilliance of the power that wants to flow through you.
Think about it now, you have this vision for your life – how you want it to be? The feeling of that? In order to be in that place for the brilliance to flow through that, the light the love, there’s certain things we wanna let go of and certain things we wanna do.
You have needs. Nobody can do it all alone. Think of when you were born! Did you do it all yourself? No?
Well, you are being born all the time and you need help.
You can’t do it all alone. And it’s not loving or kind when you take too much on, when you carry upset that never gets addressed, you end up affirming you don’t matter.
When I think about the people most helpful to me, those are people also doing their own personal growth work they are clear and confident and whatever support they’re offering it feels the same, they’re not getting all preachy preach on me. They’re sitting in their center coming from their own inner awareness of the journey and how all of us are making our way.
From moment to moment we are evolving. So we are always part beginner and part expert… I love us all to remember we’re here to shine and there’s a light we’re being asked to contribute in the world — something we’re being asked to do, to help share shine assist and we can’t do that if we are nurturing the upset
I think it’s hard to see myself without a mirror, somebody who can show me who I truly am… without that, I get myself into trouble with my stories.
You have people in your life who love you and know how to hold you and are wise… they’re helping and they can tell you that you are worthy and loveable and you matter. And if you don’t feel you have that person in your life, stick around on this podcast every week and I will be that person for you.
Show references below
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A Course in Miracles Quotes:
The Healer’s Prayer
Special Principles of Miracle Workers A Course in Miracles Chapter 2:
I am here only to be truly helpful.
I am here to represent Him Who sent me.
I do not have to worry about what to say or what to do,
because He Who sent me will direct me.
I am content to be wherever He wishes, knowing He goes there with me.
I will be healed as I let Him teach me to heal.
You might enjoy the Course in Miracles practices I offer here.
Related links for this episode:
Rock It Like You Mean It: A Manifesto for Life
Books mentioned in this episode:
A course in Miracles: Combined Volume
You might enjoy the Course in Miracles practices I offer here.
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